Parenting Your Dog: Raising a Well-Adjusted Canine Child

When deciding to welcome a dog in to ones household there are many common considerations. What kind of dog to adopt (breed, sex, age), where to find the dog (shelter, rescue, breeder, pet store, kijiji), what physical care the dog will require (health issues, vet care, food) and how to fulfill  the dog's daily requirements (pee breaks, exercise, sleeping arrangements). Although all valid and reasonable considerations, this list is incomplete. Consider a parallel of raising a child. First the decision to either conceive and give birth, adopt, find a surrogate and all the other sub-options. Then enters a variety of important choices including health options for you and your child (food, lifestyle, etc.), financial position and resources, home environment, and education. As your child grows and moves through each developmental stage their needs change and new choices and considerations are presented. As  parents our end goal is to raise capable, happy, healthy and well adjusted humans. Regardless of our motivation to welcome children our lives, we quickly learn that our selfish intentions will become second in importance to our child's needs. Now, with this parallel in mind consider raising a dog as complicated as raising a child. As your dog grows and enters various development stages, your parenting must too evolve. Consider puppyhood (birth-17 weeks) similar to infancy and toddlerhood. We appeal to the senses which are dominate (sight, touch, scent & auditory) to teach them about the world around them and to make good associations. During this initial stage there is an innocence that is not only endearing, but entirely non-threatening. It is important to remember that during this period you are setting the stage for the next. We must set our puppy's up for success. Management becomes incredibly important. When you can't teach or monitor closely, use management. Much like you wouldn't leave a toddler to their own devices alone in the living-room, when you aren't watching your puppy, use crate. There are many child-safe management products on the market that expecting parents purchase (cribs, play-pens, activity chairs and so on...). All of these products are designed to ensure the child's safety and create an enjoyable experience for the child. The crate needn't be a terrible place either. In fact it should be wonderful place full of surprises and tasty treats. Treat toys and appropriate chew articles should always be available to your puppy when she/he is confined. 

Next we must explore social interaction. This can be difficult because of the fear if socializing your puppy before the complete set of vaccinations have been delivered. Depending on your Vet, you can begin to socialize your puppy as early as 9-11 weeks of age. As far as emotional and mental development is concerned, earlier is better. Your puppy should meet hundreds of people and dozens of other dogs within the first 17 weeks of life. It is your responsibility to make sure that these experience  have excellent outcomes. If you encounter a difficult situation, you must reward your puppy's recovery. Don't get stuck in an unpleasant state of mind. 

Remember that the biggest challenge of puppyhood is effective communication. You must be very clear and decisive about what you want to teach your puppy and then make sure you give your puppy immediate feedback. You only have 1-2 seconds to communicate that what they have done is "good or bad".  Potty training can be a frustrating process not matter if you are teaching a puppy or a child. The process is all about timing. Again you must set your puppy up for success. Here is the golden potty training secret.......drum roll........eat, potty, play, potty, sleep, potty.  Then do it all again. It's really that easy. Make sure you reward what you like and if you catch your puppy doing his/her business outside of the potty zone... interrupt, redirect to the correct area and then reward. 

So, you've made it to 17 weeks. Welcome to the teens. This is the most trying time you will ever experience in your dog's life. Now is not the time to relax on structure, loosen rules and make special exceptions. This is a common mistake. Depending on breed and individuality, you are now looking at 12-16 months of parenting like never before. Hold on tight, stick to your guns, have patience, and be consistent. It will all pay off in the end. This is when the foundation work really shines. You dog is about to embark on two fear periods, teething, social snobbery, clumsiness, impulsivity and selective hearing. Sounds terrible, but it will have its funny moments. Just as our parents wondered what they did to deserve such monstrous teenagers when we were going through that stage, so will you. And, just as they survived us, so will you. I tell you this with a smile and a complete ability to relate. There's really no point in sugar coating it. You should be prepared and I can help! You now need to become an expert on your own dog. Engage in as much appropriate social interaction with your dog as possible. Playgroups, daycare and training classes will be essential support systems throughout this developmental stage. Make a list of household rules for your teenager and put them on your fridge to remind you everyday. Continue to set your dog up for success. Do not give your dog responsibility that he/she can't handle. Create your personal support group of friends, family and professionals who will listen to your frustrations, celebrate your triumphs and help you stay on track. Take each hurdle as it comes and continue to outline small incremental goals. As goals are achieved and your dog matures you will be able to relax on some of the rules and give your dog more freedom to make good choices. Soon you will find that you have effectively raised a happy, well-adjusted and socially appropriate dog. Congrats! Now keep up the good work. Create a new list of age and ability appropriate expectations and don't waiver. Continue to challenge your dogs mind and attend to his/her emotional needs. You can now be your dog's friend and mentor. Enjoy a fulfilling life together. When in doubt, consult your Behaviour Consultant for advice. 

Jessica O'Neill,

Diploma of Canine Behaviour Science & Technology

Owner/Director

Pet Intel. Behaviour Centre

www.petintel.ca

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Question from Carol in Ottawa:
I have an 11 week old mini doodle, ( male) . I have been trying to break his habit of biting but its getting worse. I tried the technique of squealing like one of his pup-mates, it worked for awhile, but then he continued to bite. It seemed to only make him more excited and bite more.. Then i tried the technique of putting a chew toy in his mouth as soon as he starts to bite,, that worked for a little while but he just trying to get around the toy to bite my hand. He now bites my pant legs when i walk and wont let go, very hard to detach him, and if i push him away he just charges back like a boomerang and grabs again.. Sometimes if i am just gently
patting him he will bite my hand and then grab my sleeve and wont let go. He has sharp little pin-like teeth and they catch in the fabric.. I pry him off but again he just keeps at it and seems to get even more excited.. This is sometimes accompanied by humping and biting.. He was neutered at 8 weeks old.
I also tried leaving the room, he is in the kitchen with a baby gate, so i can be in another room. He doesnt cry or bark, when i come back in and trying the technique of ignoring him and not giving him too much attention, he still goes at it. This doesnt happen ALL the time but its happening more and more and getting really annoying and frustrating. Did i mention that he jumps to bite my face as well? I can be snuggling with him and then all of a sudden he will bite my face. I have long hair and have learned to keep my hair tied back and also not to have any dangling ties from my hoodies.
Learned that the hard way. . He is an adorable little puppy, I dont want anyone to get the wrong idea but I really want this to stop soon.

Thank you...

Response from Dog Specialist, Jessica O'Neill:
Hi Carol,
Puppyhood is an adorable yet frustrating time. This is a time when our dogs experiment with us to see what works and what doesn't work. Your puppy's little razor sharp teeth are sharp on purpose. This help them learn how to use their mouths properly when playing with other dogs. Because they are so sharp, they really hurt!! If they are too rough it will cause their litter mates to yelp and disengage. Some pups are more tenacious then others and will continue to "play roughly" with their litter mate. At this point the yelp will no longer be a high pitch "white flag" sound; it will now be deeper in tone and give the very serious impression that enough is enough! If this continues, the boss will step in (Mom). She will very clearly, without an overreaction, but with just enough intensity to cease the interaction, tell the silly and tenacious pup to "KNOCK IT OFF". Puppies and dogs in general do relieve tension through the mouth. Your idea of providing proper chew articles is excellent! Make sure that these articles are highly interesting. Soup bones and treat toys are fantastic. Your puppy should get these articles while in a designated "chew" area and preferably when confined. Of course having a chew/play toy available for them at other times can also be appropriate. Your puppy is continuing to chew at you because it works. You are an excellent squeaker toy and you move on your own! How fantastic for him! Take a moment to be flattered that your puppy is so excited by you that the adrenaline pumping through his body causes him to stop thinking and act only on impulse (ie. the humping). Now..... don't allow it to continue! You may no longer interact with him while he is being so completely inappropriate with you. You puppy is likely over tired and has been given too much freedom. Think of a teenager moving into college housing on his own for the first time. Your puppy's mom likely ran a tight ship..... Your house is a party!
It is extremely important to socialize and interact with your new puppy, however he must be given rules and restrictions from day one. Puppy's require tons of rest. A puppy's day should look like this: Crate (sleeping and chewing), play, potty, crate, eat, potty, crate, play, potty....and so on. Do not give him more freedom than he can handle or he will fail.
Remember that how he accesses the world around him and how he achieves what he wants now will set the stage for the teens...... And you want to be as prepared as possible for the teens.
Take a couple deep breaths, puppy-proof your home and write out a list of rules and a daily routine. When he gets to be too much, he's likely over stimulate or tired. Don't be afraid to put him to bed with something to chew on.
Good luck! You can do this!